Burnout

Burnout Support Melbourne – Stress and Exhaustion Help

When “I’m Just Tired” Stops Being an Adequate Explanation

You sleep.

You’re still exhausted.

You take the weekend off.

It barely touches the sides.

Things that used to feel manageable now require a ridiculous amount of effort.

Your patience is non-existent.

Your brain feels like it’s operating through soup.

You’re snapping at people, avoiding emails, making stupid mistakes, cancelling plans or fantasising about disappearing somewhere nobody can ask you for anything.

And perhaps the strangest part is that you don’t necessarily feel dramatically unwell.

You just don’t feel like ‘you’ anymore.

Burnout tends to develop after the demands being placed on you have exceeded what you can sustainably carry for too long.

Formally, the World Health Organization (WHO) describes burnout as an occupational phenomenon resulting from chronic workplace stress that hasn’t been successfully managed. It is characterised by exhaustion, growing distance or cynicism towards work, and reduced professional effectiveness.

But you don’t need WHO to tell you all of this because you’re actually experiencing it!

In everyday life, burnout is the profound exhaustion that can comes from prolonged caring responsibilities, emotional labour, parenting, study or simply being the person who has been holding absolutely everything together.

Whatever language you use, the important question isn’t:

“Am I officially burnt out enough?”

It’s:

“What has been happening to me, what needs to change, and what kind of support do I need now?”

At The Urban Alchemist in Carlton North, our multidisciplinary team supports people experiencing chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, overwhelm and burnout through approaches including psychology, counselling and psychotherapy, EMDR and Mental Health Occupational Therapy and other supportive therapies where appropriate.

And importantly, we don’t assume every exhausted person is simply burnt out. Persistent fatigue and changes in mood can also occur with depression, anxiety, sleep disorders and physical health conditions, so sometimes a GP or other medical assessment is the right first step.

You can also book a discovery call with Dr Firas our Holistic GP and find out if this is best place to begin.

Not sure who to book? Contact our team on (03)9347 9247 and let us help you find the best support for Burnout.

What Is Burnout?

Burnout isn’t simply having a busy week.

And it isn’t the same thing as needing a holiday.

Burnout generally develops when stress and demands remain too high for too long without enough opportunity for recovery, support, control or change.

The World Health Organization describes three central features of occupational burnout:

• Significant energy depletion or exhaustion
• Growing mental distance, negativity or cynicism towards work
• Reduced professional effectiveness

Burnout is classified as “an occupational phenomenon rather than a medical diagnosis.”

And it’s THAT distinction which matters.

You can feel profoundly affected by burnout without having a psychiatric disorder.

But burnout can also coexist with, or contribute to mental health difficulties such as anxiety and depression.

So we don’t want to dismiss serious symptoms by telling ourselves:

“I’m just burnt out.”

What Does Burnout Feel Like?

People experience burnout differently.

For some people, exhaustion hits hard.

But for you it may be the irritability.

Or the numbness.

Or a strange loss of caring about something you once cared about deeply.

You might notice:

• Feeling physically or emotionally exhausted
• Waking tired despite sleeping
• Difficulty concentrating ie. “the fog”
• Forgetfulness
• Trouble making ordinary decisions
• Reduced motivation
• Feeling overwhelmed by small tasks
• Irritability or a much shorter fuse
• Becoming cynical about your work
• Feeling detached from others or responsibilities
• Dreading work
• Procrastinating or avoiding tasks
• Feeling less competent than usual
• Making more mistakes
• Feeling emotionally numb
• Withdrawing socially
• Headaches or muscular tension
• Sleep disturbance
• Digestive symptoms
• Increasing reliance on alcohol or other substances to switch off
• Feeling like you have nothing left to give

Sometimes people don’t recognise burnout because they’re still functioning.

They’re still doing the thing.

Still answering emails.

Still paying bills.

Still looking after everybody else.

They’re simply doing all of it with an internal battery flashing: 1%.

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High-Functioning Burnout Is Still Burnout

You don’t have to be lying on the floor, staring at the celling, unable to move, before you see this as a problem.

Sometimes you can experiencing severe stress AND remain incredibly productive.

In fact, the habits that helped you succeed may be the same ones keeping the burnout cycle running:

“I’ll just get through this week.”

“I can’t let anyone down.”

“It’s easier if I do it myself.”

“Once this project is finished, I’ll rest.”

“Everyone is relying on me.”

“I should be able to handle this.”

Then the project ends…And another starts.

Or someone else needs something.

Or the promised rest mysteriously becomes another list of jobs.

Being capable of continuing doesn’t necessarily mean continuing is sustainable.

So pause here and exhale…

What Causes Burnout?

Burnout isn’t simply caused by being “bad at handling stress.”

That explanation is far too convenient for environments placing unreasonable demands on humans.

Workplace factors associated with harmful chronic stress can include:

• Excessive workload
• Unrealistic deadlines
• Long working hours
• Too little control over how work is performed
• Poor support
• Unclear roles or expectations
• Workplace conflict
• Bullying or harassment
• Poor organisational change
• Feeling unfairly treated
• Inadequate recognition or reward
• Exposure to emotionally demanding or traumatic work
• Inadequate staffing or resources

Sometimes several of these occur together.

And sometimes we can be in the process of burning out … while still being  exceptionally conscientious, competent and invested in what we do… which is precisely why we keep compensating for an unsustainable situation for so long.

So this is where you can say “enough”!

At The Urban Alchemist in Carlton North, our multidisciplinary team supports people just like you who are experiencing emotional exhaustion and burnout through approaches including psychology, counselling and psychotherapy, EMDR and Mental Health Occupational Therapy and other supportive therapies where appropriate.

And if you’re sure what you are looking for?

Let our team be here for  you – together we can find the best way forward. Call us on (03)9347 9247 to connect

Burnout Isn’t Always Solved by Becoming More Resilient

This deserves its own section.

Because somewhere along the way, we’ve managed to turn resilience into:

“How can I become better at tolerating something that is harming me?”

Sometimes learning better boundaries, emotional regulation or coping strategies genuinely helps.

But if you have:

• An impossible workload
• People who genuinly rely on you
• Constant after-hours contact
• Chronic understaffing
• A bullying manager
• No control over your work
• Repeated exposure to traumatic situations
• No meaningful recovery time

And another meditation app may not be the intervention your nervous system is crying out for.

Sometimes the environment needs to change.

Sometimes your workload needs to change.

Sometimes your role needs to change.

Sometimes you need leave.

Sometimes the uncomfortable answer is that the arrangement itself is unsustainable.

Support should help you distinguish between:

“What can I change inside myself?”

and

“What needs to change around me?”

Burnout Outside of Paid Work

So here’s the deal… WHO reserves the term burnout for the occupational context.

But real humans are way less tidy with language.

People commonly describe themselves as burnt out after prolonged periods of:

• Caretaking and parenting children
• Looking after someone with an illness or disability
• Supporting an ageing parent
• Emotional labour
• Study
• Running a household
• Managing family crisis
• Being responsible for everyone else’s needs
• Combining several demanding roles at once

Beyond Blue also recognises that excessive demands in personal life and unpaid caring responsibilities can produce experiences people describe as burnout. And yeah, you don’t need another neat definition when you are the one living it.

So if you’re thinking:

“But I’m not technically burnt out because I’m not talking about my job,”

…don’t get trapped by terminology.

The underlying issue may still be prolonged stress, overload and inadequate recovery.

The job of support is to understand what’s happening, not argue with you about the definition.

What’s the Difference Between Burnout and Stress?

Stress itself isn’t automatically harmful.

Short periods of stress can help us respond to difficult situations, meet deadlines and mobilise energy. It’s known as ‘eustress’ and we need it to become resilient beings.

The problem is when demands stay high and recovery never really arrives.

With ordinary stress you may feel:

“I have too much to do.”

Burnout can start sounding more like:

“I have nothing left to give.”

Stress often involves urgency and over-engagement.

Burnout may involve depletion, detachment and disengagement.

The two aren’t completely separate states, though. Burnout commonly develops in the context of chronic, poorly managed stress.

Burnout vs Depression – How Do I Know the Difference?

This is one of the most important sections on this page.

Burnout and depression can look quite similar…

Both may involve:

• Exhaustion
• Difficulty concentrating
• Sleep problems
• Reduced motivation
• Irritability
• Withdrawal
• Reduced productivity
• Feeling overwhelmed

But depression is a recognised mental health condition that can affect many areas of life, not simply your relationship with work.

Possible signs of depression include persistent low mood, loss of pleasure or interest, feelings of hopelessness or worthlessness, significant changes in sleep or appetite and difficulty carrying out normal daily activities.

You can’t reliably diagnose the difference by asking ChatGPT…

But you can ask a Psychologist.

If your exhaustion is accompanied by persistent low mood, hopelessness, losing interest in things you usually enjoy, withdrawing from people you care about or feeling that life isn’t worth living, seek assessment from a GP or qualified mental health professional.

Don’t write those symptoms off as “just burnout.”

Could My Exhaustion Be Something Physical?

Yes.

And this is why we don’t want “burnout” becoming a wastebasket diagnosis for every tired person.

Persistent fatigue can have many possible contributors, including:

• Sleep problems
• Anaemia or iron deficiency
• Thyroid conditions
• Nutritional deficiencies
• Infection or illness
• Medication effects
• Hormonal changes
• Chronic health conditions
• Mental health conditions
• Substance use
• Other medical causes

If you’re experiencing significant or unexplained physical exhaustion, particularly if it is new, worsening or accompanied by other symptoms. In this case, see your regular GP.

Psychological support and medical investigation aren’t competing explanations.

Sometimes you need both.

Why Can’t I Think Properly When I’m Burnt Out?

People often describe this as “brain fog.”

You may find yourself:

Opening the same email three times.

Walking into a room and forgetting why.

Reading a paragraph without absorbing any of it.

Being unable to prioritise five incredibly ordinary tasks.

Making decisions that would normally take 30 seconds feel like you’re negotiating international peace.

Prolonged stress and poor sleep can affect attention, working memory, concentration and decision-making.

And once your cognitive capacity is overloaded, every new demand costs more.

This is one reason simply telling a burnt-out person to “get organised” can be spectacularly unhelpful.

Sometimes what they need isn’t a better planner.

They need fewer demands.

Why Am I So Irritable?

Burnout doesn’t always look sad.

Sometimes it looks furious.

Noise annoys you.

People asking perfectly reasonable questions annoy you.

Your inbox annoys you.

Someone chewing six metres away appears to be personally attacking your nervous system.

When you’re depleted, your tolerance for additional demands can shrink dramatically.

Irritability can occur with stress, burnout, anxiety, depression, sleep deprivation and other health conditions.

So again, we care about the broader pattern rather than treating one symptom as proof of burnout.

What About Sleep?

Sleep and burnout can become a thoroughly unhelpful feedback loop.

You’re exhausted.

But your brain won’t switch off.

You lie down and immediately remember every unresolved problem in your life.

You wake at 3am thinking about work.

Then you start the next day already depleted.

Work-related stress is associated with sleep disturbance, and inadequate sleep in turn makes concentration, emotion regulation and coping with stress harder.

Improving sleep can be valuable.

But if the thing keeping you awake is an objectively unmanageable life or work situation, sleep hygiene alone isn’t going to solve the entire problem.

Why Doesn’t Taking a Holiday Fix Burnout?

Because recovery and escape aren’t the same thing.

A holiday may give you:

• Rest
• Distance
• Sleep
• Pleasure
• Perspective
• Temporary relief from demands

All valuable.

But if you return to exactly the same workload, expectations, boundaries and conditions that depleted you in the first place, the improvement may disappear remarkably quickly.

Recovery from burnout often involves asking harder questions:

What is unsustainable?

What needs to stop?

What can be delegated?

Where do I need support?

Which boundaries aren’t functioning?

What am I doing because I genuinely choose to—and what am I doing because I feel incapable of disappointing anyone?

What needs to change structurally rather than temporarily?

What Helps With Burnout?

There isn’t one universal burnout recovery protocol.

The useful intervention depends on what’s driving the overload and how significantly it has affected you.

For some people, relatively early changes to workload, boundaries, sleep and support make an enormous difference.

Others have reached a point where continuing to operate normally simply isn’t realistic.

Support may involve:

• Reducing workload
• Taking leave
• Establishing boundaries around work hours
• Increasing practical support
• Addressing workplace psychosocial hazards
• Psychological therapy
• Reconsidering responsibilities
• Improving sleep
• Returning gradually to enjoyable activity
• Reducing alcohol or other coping strategies that are making things worse
• Medical assessment where needed
• Rebuilding routines and capacity gradually

Most importantly, recovery usually isn’t about becoming good enough at self-care to survive unlimited demands.

The demands themselves need examining.

Psychology for Burnout

Psychological support can help you understand both the external pressures contributing to burnout and the internal patterns that may be keeping you trapped in them.

That might include exploring:

• Perfectionism
• People pleasing
• Difficulty saying no
• Fear of disappointing others
• Over-responsibility
• High self-criticism
• Work identity
• Difficulty resting
• Anxiety
• Chronic guilt
• Boundary difficulties
• Workplace relationships
• Patterns of over-functioning

Therapy can also help you distinguish between realistic responsibility and the feeling that everything will collapse unless you personally hold it together.

For someone experiencing anxiety, depression or significant psychological distress alongside burnout, a psychologist can also assess and treat those conditions directly.

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Counselling & Psychotherapy for Burnout

Sometimes burnout isn’t only about the amount you’re doing.

It’s about the deeper pattern underneath why you keep doing it.

Why is rest uncomfortable?

Why does saying no feel dangerous?

Why do you automatically become the competent one?

Why do other people’s needs become urgent while yours remain indefinitely postponable?

Why does your worth become tangled up with usefulness?

Counselling or psychotherapy can provide space to explore these patterns in greater depth, particularly when burnout connects with long-standing ways of relating to yourself, work or other people.

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EMDR for Burnout

Sometimes burnout isn’t only about having too much to do.

For some people, prolonged stress can become tangled up with difficult or traumatic experiences – workplace bullying, conflict, repeated criticism, high-pressure environments, frightening events, or periods when they felt overwhelmed and unable to escape.

Even after the situation has changed, you may notice that your body still reacts as though the threat is happening now.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is a structured psychological therapy that may be helpful when trauma, distressing memories or strongly triggered emotional responses are contributing to your experience.

Rather than treating burnout itself, EMDR can help address some of the experiences that may be sitting underneath or alongside it, particularly when you find yourself unusually reactive, avoidant, hypervigilant or unable to switch off after a difficult period.

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Mental Health Occupational Therapy for Burnout

Burnout eventually stops being theoretical.

It starts affecting how you actually function.

Getting out of bed.

Preparing food.

Managing work.

Maintaining routines.

Remembering appointments.

Seeing friends.

Exercising.

Keeping your home functioning.

Returning to work after leave.

A Mental Health Occupational Therapist focuses strongly on the relationship between mental health and everyday functioning.

Support may include helping you rebuild sustainable routines, manage energy and demands, develop practical strategies, modify activities and gradually return to meaningful parts of life without immediately recreating the conditions that exhausted you.

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Can Massage or Bodywork Help Burnout?

Massage does not treat burnout itself.

But… many people experiencing chronic stress also carry significant physical tension, headaches, jaw clenching, neck and shoulder discomfort or a constant sense of physiological activation.

For some people, massage or other body-based therapies can be a supportive part of recovery by providing relaxation, comfort and relief from muscular tension.

That’s adjunctive care.

Do I Need to Take Time Off Work?

Maybe.

There isn’t one answer that applies to everyone.

For some people, remaining at work with meaningful changes to workload, hours or responsibilities may be manageable.

For others, functioning has deteriorated enough that a period away from work may be appropriate.

This is something to discuss with your regular GP and, where relevant, your employer or workplace health service.

The key question isn’t whether you can physically drag yourself to work tomorrow.

It’s whether the current arrangement is supporting recovery, or continually recreating the injury.

Your Workplace Has Responsibilities Too

Burnout is too often individualised.

Safe Work Australia identifies workplace psychosocial hazards including excessive job demands, low job control, poor support, unclear roles, inadequate recognition, poor organisational justice, bullying, harassment and conflict.

Australian work health and safety frameworks place responsibilities on businesses to manage psychosocial risks, not simply provide stressed employees with resilience workshops.

So if your work environment itself is harmful, support may include considering workplace changes—not merely changing how well you tolerate it.

What Can I Do Right Now if I Think I’m Burning Out?

Start by making the situation smaller.

Not by designing your perfect new life tonight.

Ask:

What is genuinely urgent?

What can wait?

What can I stop doing?

Who can help?

What am I pretending is mandatory when it actually isn’t?

What would make tomorrow 10% less demanding?

Practical first steps might include:

• Tell someone you trust what’s happening
• Book an appointment with your GP or mental health professional if symptoms are significant
• Take actual breaks during work
• Stop routinely working outside your paid hours where possible
• Reduce unnecessary commitments
• Eat and hydrate regularly
• Protect sleep
• Reduce alcohol or substances being used to switch off
• Delegate something
• Ask for help before you’re completely incapacitated
• Document workplace issues if they are contributing
• Find out whether your workplace offers an Employee Assistance Program
• Give yourself some genuinely unproductive time

And no, turning recovery into a 17-item optimisation project probably isn’t what your exhausted brain needs.

When Should I See a GP?

See your regular GP if:

• Your exhaustion is significant or persistent
• You’re not sure whether the symptoms are burnout, anxiety, depression or something physical
• Your sleep has become seriously disrupted
• You’re struggling to function at work or home
• Your mood has changed significantly
• You’re increasingly relying on alcohol or other substances
• You’re experiencing unexplained physical symptoms
• You may need medical leave or workplace documentation
• You’re considering whether medication or specialist mental-health assessment may be appropriate

Your GP can assess both physical and mental-health contributors and help determine what kind of support you need.

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When Burnout Becomes a Mental Health Crisis

Burnout itself isn’t the same thing as depression or suicidal thinking.

But people experiencing prolonged distress can reach a point where they feel hopeless, trapped or unable to continue.

If you’re experiencing thoughts about suicide or harming yourself, don’t treat that as a productivity problem or something you simply need to rest your way out of.

If you are in immediate danger or at immediate risk of harm, call Triple Zero (000) or go to your nearest emergency department.

For immediate crisis support in Australia, Lifeline is available on 13 11 14.

If you are experiencing persistent low mood, hopelessness, loss of interest or thoughts that life isn’t worth living, seek professional support promptly.

A Multidisciplinary Approach to Burnout

Burnout rarely needs another person telling you to “just relax.”

You may need psychological support.

Practical help rebuilding your routines.

Medical assessment.

Changes at work.

Better boundaries.

Time off.

A serious rethink of the responsibilities you’re carrying.

Or several of those things together.

At The Urban Alchemist, our multidisciplinary team includes mental-health and wellbeing practitioners who can support different aspects of burnout and chronic stress.

Our job isn’t to prescribe one universal path.

It’s to help you understand what’s happening, find an appropriate starting point and build a more sustainable way forward.

Find Support for Burnout

Not sure who to see? Contact our team on (03) 9347 9247.

Frequently Asked Questions About Burnout

Is burnout a mental illness?

Burnout is not classified by the World Health Organization as a medical condition. WHO describes it as an occupational phenomenon associated with chronic workplace stress that hasn’t been successfully managed.

Burnout can, however, occur alongside mental health conditions such as anxiety or depression.

If you’re unsure what’s happening, assessment by a GP or mental health professional is worthwhile.

What are the main signs of burnout?

Common experiences include significant exhaustion, increasing negativity or detachment from work and feeling less effective than you normally would.

People may also experience irritability, sleep problems, difficulty concentrating, withdrawal and physical symptoms related to chronic stress.

How do I know if I’m burnt out or just tired?

Ordinary tiredness usually improves with adequate rest and recovery.

Burnout tends to involve a deeper pattern of ongoing exhaustion alongside changes in your motivation, attitude towards work and capacity to function.

If a weekend off barely changes anything and you’ve felt depleted for a prolonged period, it’s worth looking more closely at what’s happening.

Is burnout the same as depression?

No.

Burnout and depression can share symptoms such as exhaustion, poor concentration, reduced motivation and sleep changes.

Depression is a mental health condition that commonly involves persistent low mood and/or loss of interest or pleasure and may affect many areas of life.

The two can also occur together.

If you’re experiencing significant low mood, hopelessness or loss of interest in things you normally enjoy, seek professional assessment rather than assuming burnout explains everything.

Can burnout cause anxiety?

Chronic stress and burnout may coexist with anxiety, and prolonged workplace stress can contribute to psychological harm.

If worry, panic, hypervigilance or anxiety is becoming prominent, a mental health professional can help assess what’s happening and recommend appropriate treatment.

Can burnout make you physically sick?

Chronic workplace stress can affect physical as well as mental wellbeing.

People may experience symptoms including fatigue, headaches, disturbed sleep or digestive problems.

Persistent physical symptoms should still be medically assessed rather than automatically attributed to stress.

Why am I exhausted even after sleeping?

There are many possible reasons for persistent exhaustion.

Stress and poor-quality sleep are possibilities, but medical conditions and mental health conditions can also cause fatigue.

If your exhaustion is ongoing or unexplained, see your GP.

How long does burnout take to recover from?

There isn’t one timetable.

Recovery depends on how depleted you’ve become, what is driving the burnout, whether those conditions change and what support you receive.

For some people, early intervention and meaningful changes produce improvement relatively quickly. Others need a much longer period to recover.

The goal should be sustainable recovery rather than racing to become productive again as quickly as possible.

Will taking a holiday cure burnout?

A holiday can provide valuable rest and distance.

But if you return to exactly the same unsustainable demands, boundaries or workplace conditions, the relief may be temporary.

Recovery often requires changing the circumstances that produced the burnout, not merely escaping them briefly.

Should I quit my job if I’m burnt out?

Not necessarily.

When you’re profoundly depleted, making enormous life decisions can be difficult.

Sometimes workplace modifications, leave, reduced hours or other changes are enough.

Sometimes leaving genuinely is the right decision.

A psychologist, counsellor, GP or other trusted professional can help you step out of the immediate overwhelm and think through your options more clearly.

Can a psychologist help with burnout?

Yes.

Psychological support can help with stress management, boundaries, perfectionism, self-criticism, anxiety, workplace difficulties and other patterns that may contribute to or maintain burnout.

A psychologist can also assess whether a condition such as depression or anxiety is present.

Can psychotherapy help burnout?

Psychotherapy may be particularly useful when burnout connects with deeper recurring patterns such as over-responsibility, people pleasing, perfectionism, difficulty resting or feeling that your worth depends on being useful.

Can a Mental Health OT help with burnout?

Yes.

Mental Health Occupational Therapy can be particularly helpful when burnout is affecting your ability to manage work, routines, household tasks, self-care and other everyday activities.

The focus is often practical: helping you rebuild functioning in a sustainable way.

Should I see my GP for burnout?

If your symptoms are significant, yes.

A GP can help determine whether you’re experiencing burnout, depression, anxiety, a physical health problem or a combination of factors.

They may also help with medical certificates, referrals or other aspects of your care.

How do I know which practitioner to book?

If you’re primarily struggling with emotional distress, anxiety, low mood, perfectionism, boundaries or workplace stress, psychology or psychotherapy may be a good starting point.

If burnout has substantially disrupted your routines, self-care, work capacity and day-to-day functioning, Mental Health Occupational Therapy may also be particularly useful.

If you’re experiencing significant unexplained fatigue, physical symptoms, persistent low mood or you’re unsure what’s happening, start with your regular GP.

And if you’re still not sure, contact reception. Tell us a little about what you’re experiencing and we’ll help you choose an appropriate starting point.

Burnout Support in Carlton North, Melbourne

You don’t have to wait until your body completely refuses to cooperate before you’re allowed to change something.

Burnout is not evidence that you’ve become weak, lazy or incapable.

Often it’s evidence that the equation has stopped working.

Too much going out.

Not enough coming back in.

At The Urban Alchemist in Carlton North, our multidisciplinary team provides support for people experiencing burnout, chronic stress and emotional exhaustion through psychology, counselling and psychotherapy, EMDR or Mental Health Occupational Therapy and other supportive healthcare approaches.

The goal isn’t to get you functioning at maximum capacity again as quickly as possible.

It’s to understand what happened, support your recovery and help you build something more sustainable than the situation that brought you here.

Ready to find the right place to start?

Find Support for Burnout

Not Sure Who to Book? Contact Us on (03) 9347 9247